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There are LOTS of things we have to figure out as we become parents, and Mums seem to get a lot of advice… but what about the Daddies?
I mean, the missus has probably given you a bunch of baby books to read, which you’ll have read cover-to-cover (ahem), but this is what you REALLY need to know.
1. Your Baby Needs You Too
Providing safety, comfort and love, keeping baby clean and happy… these are all things that a new baby needs that Dads can certainly provide. While a baby’s bond with his / her mother is important, Dads also have a special role to play. Talk to your partner and split responsibilities. Teamwork really does make dream work.
2. Those First Few Nappies Are Interesting.
To say the least. You thought poo only came in a few colours / consistencies. You’ll very quickly learn how wrong you were. We’ll move on without going into too much detail – wouldn’t want to ruin the surprise.
3. You WILL Have Sex Again
Contrary to popular belief, your sex life doesn’t have to suffer! Although you’ll both be tired in the early days, if you help your missus regain her strength after all the changes her body has been through, you’ll be back to enjoying the intimate times again before you know it!
4. It’s Okay If It Takes Time
There’s no Daddy Switch that you just turn ‘on’. While some fathers fall in love the second they clap eyes on their little one, others find it to be a frightening experience that’s full of uncertainty and apprehension. And that’s fine. Because the truth is, some Mums feel that way too. Sometimes the bond is instant, and sometimes it grows with time. Studies have shown that it can take 2-3 months for new Dads to feel ‘attached’, so there’s absolutely nothing to feel guilty about if you’re not overwhelmed with emotion from Day One.
5. Trust Yourself
It might seem like Mummy is a natural parent, who just knows what to do, but the truth is we’re all winging it – especially the first time. She may take the lead on some things, but don’t be afraid to take the mantle once in a while. A well-rested Mummy and a happy baby are a winning combo. You’ll get to bond with the little one, and you’ll win serious brownie points with the missus. Everyone wins. Fathers are inherently programmed to protect their young. Trust your instincts.
6. It’s Ok To Accept Help
Your relationship with your parents (and the In-Laws) will change. They’re Grandparents now, and they’ll come in useful at times. When they offer to help, it’s okay to say ‘yes’.
7. Keep Your Chest Hair Covered!
Babies pull things that are within reach. Sometimes those things are attached to your body. Pain ensues. Seriously. If you remember just ONE of these pieces of advice, it needs to be this.
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